A couple of years ago, a friend swore to me that the CNN’s Anderson Cooper was gay. And that it was a matter of time before he came out. I argued that Cooper would be gay only after he’d publicly confirmed that he was gay. The essence of the conversation is that my friend I wanted the TV host and reporter to say it. It bothered us that his journalism revealed very little about his personal life. But now that he’s come out, it should matter to us all.